Join Jennie's List
RSS Instagram Pinterest Facebook Twitter

connect with jennie

 
About Jennie
 

Blog Categories

All  //  God  //  Family  //  Adoption  //  Writing  //  Interviews Subscribe to the Blog  

 
 
 

21

August, 2012

59 Comments

Unglued (a giveaway)

****Winners are Misty Keith and Amy Hunt****

Lysa is a new friend who just wrapped her arms around my in this speaking/ publishing gig. I  officially love her and was so happy to have the chance to talk about her book today and offer you a few copies as well. She asked me to share a time I became unglued. This was a few years ago- now a couple of these kids are nearly teenagers and it doesn’t get easier (they also don’t let me match them at Easter anymore- dang it.) …

One these cute kids got in trouble today at school.  I shall never reveal their identity.  They are preacher kids- they don’t need any extra attention from my blog.  Although it is safe to rule out the one in pink.


Unfortunately it was the second time in the last week.  When I read the email from the teacher my heart just broke- you know- you just kind of want to either crawl in a hole and cry or string the kid upside down till they repent.

But instead I got in my car and went to the school.

It was 1:00.
I walked in and knocked on the classroom door- asked for my child and then headed for the car silently.  I did not say a word as my child pleaded with me to tell where we were going.
I just drove.

(Remember  that I know I am a little dramatic and phsyco.  Just want everyone to remember that I know.)

I drove up to my favorite cafe.  And still without a word of explanation, we sit and I order my favorite cake and two waters.  Fear has officially set in and perhaps a slight thought like…. MY MOm IS InsaNE!

I look into precious rebel eyes and say…….

“THIS ENDS HERE.”

“You will change. You will stop choosing to act as if God is not in you. And I am crazy about you.”

“And we are here celebrating the end of your hard heart and this mutiny.  We are celebrating that it is over…. officially over.  Today.”

(well I didn’t really use the word mutiny- but the rest is pretty much verbatim.)

We went on to talk a lot about life in the land of short crazy people and I think I do see a little shift in those eyes.  A little recognition that living as a rebel just does not fare well for you and submitting may be the only way to ever do anything fun with short crazy people again!

That was a day my blood boiled… I was unglued. Panic had set in and my emotions were headed to beat this child into submission. I remember driving and for quite some time- not knowing where I was driving.

My dear new friend Lysa TerKheurst’s new book is out and I think all of us need it. Because our blood boils a lot if we are honest. Lysa has the gift of making you not feel crazy… all the while kicking you in the behind to change.

I love this woman! I already love this book (though I just cracked it). Go get it here. Or share this post and/ or tell us one word of something that gets you unglued and we’ll choose a couple of you to get a copy for free!

*** GIVEAWAY****
Answer below: What gets you unglued?
And Share via Twitter and Facebook this post. Just let me know in the comments you shared it.
Each comment and share is an entry!

59 Responses to Unglued (a giveaway)


Jill Barker says: August 21, 2012 at 12:10 pm

I read this post days after finishing the chapter MAD in STUCK. WOW! God is really speaking through you on these subjects. In the past, I would’ve picked up that child and given them a “piece of my mind” instead of a piece of cake. Help me to remember this scenario Lord!

I would say felt like coming unglued when my toddler covered the bathroom floor in conditioner? Or perhaps when she decorated her face with mascara when we were late to a school program? Tough to choose ;) .

Reply

 

Deirdre Hopkins says: August 21, 2012 at 12:49 pm

I come unglued often. I think it’s usually in response to my kids’ naughty behavior too. I think I also respond this way to outsider’s criticism of my parenting. The momma bear comes out and it’s not always pretty!

Reply

 

Kristyna Brusby says: August 21, 2012 at 1:42 pm

I realize that there are too many things that cause me to come unglued. It comes down to what I do with those emotions that help me to get through the situation gracefully. Now if I can just get my success rate up!

Reply

 

Marg says: August 21, 2012 at 1:46 pm

Thanks for this post, I feel like it was very timely for me :) . I know one day I will have to drag my kids out of bed, but currently the night time / all night battles are a little exhausting and can unglue me a little too easily. I will have to check out this book, I always love a good book reccomendation.

Reply

 

Amy Faris says: August 21, 2012 at 2:11 pm

That is so something that would make me come “unglued” too. Thanks for sharing this! I love the way you turned it around & made it a celebration. It’s all about perspective. I needed to read this ….whoa, my second child…

Reply

 

Cheryl Kauffman says: August 21, 2012 at 2:12 pm

Struggling not to come unglued…..ending a job after 8 years, starting a new one I’m not sure I have the skills for, niece born 11 weeks premature early this AM, 5th day of a migraine, and 55th birthday in a few days – a number for the first time I am struggling with…….. or maybe it’s not the number but the “senior citizen” label……..

Reply

 

shawna says: August 21, 2012 at 2:32 pm

i come unglued when I battle with my kids…trying to teach them Gods love & way then I flip my wig on them :( I also come unglued when im good enough to pray for others but I only hear from them when theres a problem…i never just get a call to hear ab my day or just sit & gab & fellowship….justt a lil unglued on that one….major unglued with kids ;)

Reply

 

Misty Keith says: August 21, 2012 at 2:19 pm

As a teacher, I loved this blog. It blesses me to know that there are parents who will partner with teachers in order to help educate and discipline children.

As a parent I become unglued over one main thing. In the classroom, I am able to tell children what they need to do and they usually do it for me the first time. However, at home and as a parent, I can scream from the roof top and my own children will often times not do what I need them to do. I find myself repeating myself over and over again. I get more tired parenting and grow more weary then I do teaching.

Great blog Jennie! :o )

Reply

 

Catherine Rochell says: August 21, 2012 at 2:21 pm

I am the mother of two grown sons. They are both compassionate men. I still come unglued when I see someone they are helping intentionally hurt them.

Reply

 

April C. says: August 21, 2012 at 2:26 pm

Without a doubt my 4 year old (soon to be 5) daughter makes me come unglued. Every single day I battle and fight with her over EVERYTHING. My answers aren’t good enough, her life’s not good enough, she always needs more. It has been this way since she was a baby. I often feel bad because she demands so much energy for her attention and other people (siblings, husband) in our house often suffer my wrath because of my day with her. Then parental guilt sets in because I can’t seem to control my anger. It is a daily reliance, and failure, of my dependance on God to make it through the day. One day I hope he reveals to me what all this fighting was for.

Reply

 

Ashley says: August 21, 2012 at 2:27 pm

I become unglued too often…. like when my 3 year old is indecisive on EVERYTHING, or when fits arise for no reason!!
I need to remind myself to be like Jesus to him during these tough times when I could easily come unglued.

Thanks!!

Reply

 

Wendy Powers says: August 21, 2012 at 2:44 pm

I remember being the young mom of 4 children. Worrring about their behavior being perfect, wanting the perfect family, the perfiectly clean house and being the perect wife. Now my kids are grown and parents themselves I realize I came unglued over all the wrong things the things I thought had to be perfect.
We need to work harder to keep our eyes and our childrens eyes glued on HIM and we will have less unglued moments :)

Reply

 

KELLI says: August 21, 2012 at 2:45 pm

I become unglued when my kids whine ~ when they scream ~ when we are in a hurry and no one is getting ready. too much

Reply

 

Gindi says: August 21, 2012 at 3:05 pm

How brave. I have three two year olds and one is already a rebel. I have not been nearly as diplomatic in handling it. This inspires me to take another tact. And realize that while there are three of them, and it feels like 10 at times, they are only two………

Reply

 

Amanda says: August 21, 2012 at 3:16 pm

I become unglued pretty much daily and the list is long on what gets me that way. This morning it was the dirty socks under the kitchen table that I’ve asked my kids for 2 days now to pick up. This is something I struggle with hourly, and I always end up with the same result of guilt and disappointment in myself that I became so unglued so easily.

Reply

 

Lindsey E says: August 21, 2012 at 3:43 pm

I feel like I’m the only parent at times. I get them up and ready for school/church, I give them their baths every night, I put them to bed repeatedly because they always come out of their room for whatever excuse, etc. I’ve got to read this book, but it feels impossible to go out and purchase it for myself. Thank you for this giveaway. God Bless you, Girl!

Reply

 

Natalie says: August 21, 2012 at 3:43 pm

I don’t think I am alone with this… but I find I respond to fearful things by trying to control different situations–whether they be marital issues, money struggles, or parenting. When it becomes obvious that my “solutions” are not working out, I become unglued. Life is much easier when I choose to run to God, ask for help, and acknowledge that I am not in control!

Reply

 

WordsOnFire says: August 21, 2012 at 4:51 pm

I used to come unglued when I would see my imperfections…when i would see how far from God I was (and how I felt even further away…), when I was would feel not good enough for God’s love. Now I know that we are ALL a little unglued because we were meant to be that way! If we were perfectly glued together, we would be…well…perfect! And we all know we are so very far from perfect. Thankfully, we have the One who we can lean on who can glue us back together no matter how many times we come unglued!

Reply

 

Verna Hynes says: August 21, 2012 at 4:58 pm

Jennie,
Your blog was so interesting, honest and a blessing to me. I guess a lot of us Christian woman get angry about things and Lysa’s book helps us to understand that. And then what to do with it and act appropriately! Oh, how many, many times I came unglued when I was raising my two kids! Goodness!

I also wanted to let you know that I shared your blog on my Face book page.
Thanks for your blog and may God bless you and your beautiful family!

Sincerely,
Verna Hynes
Alberta, Canada

Reply

 

Terri says: August 21, 2012 at 5:02 pm

I come unglued when I’m doing all I can to get our family deadlines met and no one else is cooperating. When life is just a struggle everywhere you turn. I really want to read your book Stuck and Lisa’s book Unglued. I’m needing all the help I can get. Thanks for sharing Hope!!!

Reply

 

Donna says: August 21, 2012 at 5:06 pm

I become unglued when I see my grandson being mistreated. He is most def. a handful but he is my little innocent sweetheart. I have shared this!

Reply

 

KIM HEREDIA says: August 21, 2012 at 8:09 pm

Can I just say- becoming “unglued” happens the third time I have to put away tooth paste, hair gel & lotion that couldn’t seem to find their way back into the cabinet on a daily basis without my assistance as I’m picking up the shower towels off the bathroom floor again:) Ode to Joy!

Reply

 

Liya says: August 22, 2012 at 1:45 am

I have not read the book yet, but on the website I have read the first page and thought this is the book for me. I am 28 and learning about myself and the role that God has for me at this time in my life. I am beginning to realize the what makes me UNGLUED is, LOL dealing with people who(makes me angry) are sharping me each and everyday to be or become who God wants me to be. Such as staff members on my job who have problems with authority (Female) or being over worked and not getting notice for. I am being unglued so that God can glue me to the design that He has for me.

Reply

 

ConnieH says: August 22, 2012 at 2:53 am

I loved this blog post. Oh, I do remember days like that. My unglued looks a little different these days. After just taking my baby off to college last week I am a bit unglued on a daily, even hourly basis. I just texted my oldest child (who went to college last January after a few really, really hard years at home) “Happy Golden Birthday Eve baby. I love you to the moon and back” Then I proceeded to cry like a baby. Oh boy, a different kind of unglued…..but still completely unglued. God help me!

Reply

 

Erin says: August 22, 2012 at 3:14 am

I can relate to the blood boiling because there is a feeling to becoming unglued. It always happens to me when I’m just not seeing or thinking clearly. Whether because I’m overtired or overworked and something small triggers a big response. I can’t wait to read this book!

Reply

 

Emilia says: August 22, 2012 at 3:42 am

I come unglued when my six year old acts like a two year old. But bigger fits. I find myself ready to throw a grown up fit. How can I expect her to control her temper, when I can’t control mine?

Reply

 

Amy Hunt says: August 22, 2012 at 9:43 am

I get that whole “beating my kids into submission” with my words thing. When I feel as though I’m not being heard and my son’s free will feels stronger than my abilities. Ugh, He knows how I need to surrender my will for His.

And, when I don’t feel heard by my groom. I lash out. And explode. Through the years I’ve hated that part about myself. It’s been curbed some, but it’s still there–that tendency. And I’ve recently prayed that God would give me tools to argue differently. And actually, Lysa’s book might be one of those tools. I heard her on K-Love recently and paused while making dinner just to listen. The way God uses our own vulnerability to touch others is so amazing.

Reply

 

Sarah Curl says: August 22, 2012 at 2:58 pm

I become unglued quite often! It is usually when I feel like I am not being heard, either by my husband or by my children. My blood absolutely boils when I am trying so hard to vocalize what I am feeling inside, and it is simply ignored as if no one has even spoken. I think that it’s largely a pride problem on my part, but yet I cannot help but feel like what I am saying should be deemed important!

Reply

 

karen says: August 23, 2012 at 12:29 am

When I just do not know what to do, and am afraid whatever I do will make the situation, whatever it is worse. Which is pretty much a lot of the time!

Reply

 

Melinda T says: August 23, 2012 at 2:30 am

When my girls (ages 2 and 6) bicker with each other or not listen or cooperate with me it gets frustrating, especially if we need to be out of the house and we’re already running late!

Reply

 

Sarah J says: August 23, 2012 at 3:30 am

This book sounds wonderful! I never think I am someone who easily becomes “unglued” until I’m in the middle of a “moment” and hear myself sounding rediculous. :/

Reply

 

Krissy says: August 23, 2012 at 6:22 am

My little independent 2 year old can unglue me like nothing else. She’s super smart and knows it, so often it becomes a battle of the will. I love her like no other and desperately want to just not mess her up! :) There’s also a family member who I live dearly but she can send my blood boiling. I hate that often times the ones we value the most, are usually the ones who see us at our worst. Lord, help us. :)

Reply

 

JC Y says: August 23, 2012 at 5:32 pm

just finished the book. Loved it! single mom 365/24/7.
Too much chaos, too much demanding my attention when I have forgotten my boundaries and that
tornado, destructive crazy woman in me comes out of the shadow. The one that I am thankful that God provides grace to. Unglued happened when the bright yellow paint my youngest got into, all over the garage floor/wall, my car, and garage door. Let’s just say we now a a cheery :) entrance. He was so proud of his artwork no less. Me; not so proud of my ungluedness in that moment.

Reply

 

Kim B. says: August 23, 2012 at 7:33 pm

When my boys break item# 10254 from throwing their footballs, lacrosse balls, etc in the house when they think I’m not looking. ugh! I sooo can relate to your little restaurant intervention! It’s HARD being a mom :)

Reply

 

liz says: August 24, 2012 at 3:03 am

I come unglued when Iam not heard. My husband and 4 sons lead such busy lives and I get angry and abrasive with them when I feel like they are not fully listening to me. It goes back to my feelings of feeling unworthy of love that I dealt with for many years.

Reply

 

Maryzoe says: August 25, 2012 at 12:13 pm

As I sit here 9 days before the start of school, it’s getting rough. I’m praying for wisdom and patience, but it’s a rough road sometimes. It seems as though they are kind and generous everywhere but here at home. But then again, the same could be said of me.

Reply

 

Lee Ann says: August 30, 2012 at 7:24 pm

I’m currently preparing to lead your study “Stuck,” but have simultaneously been reading excerpts from Lysa’s new book on my daily emails….I think it is no coincidence that God has had these two books/studies cross paths when I stopped by your blog today. I thank BOTH of you for being so real and vulnerable and willing to let us see you “without makeup.” In fact, we kept going back and forth trying to decide which book to use for our women’s study at church! We’ll have to do Unglued next. :) Please pray for a group of women in the Waco, Texas, area who I will be teaching/encouraging to take an honest, hard look at their expectations of life and to let God sink into every little nook and cranny. Please pray for me to show vulnerability like you all have done, so that I can speak Truth into their lives and be an authentic vessel for God to use. Blessings and thank you for letting the Lord take over your lives and time and energy writing these books!

Reply

 

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

*

*

You may use these HTML tags and attributes: <a href="" title=""> <abbr title=""> <acronym title=""> <b> <blockquote cite=""> <cite> <code> <del datetime=""> <em> <i> <q cite=""> <strike> <strong>